finding your tribe

Sometimes, when you are on the path to your authentic self, you may find that people fall out of your life.

They may be friends. They may be family. They may be casual acquaintances.

You may have an argument. You may slowly drift apart. You may wake up and realize that you have nothing in common anymore. They may just disappear. They may want nothing to do with you unless you stay like you were.

This might be sad. This might be scary. This might be puzzling.

What I can tell you, however, is that it is necessary and wonderful. They are making room for a new group of people who love you and support you. Stay the course. If you truly are on the path to your authentic self, your new tribe will come.

Some of them may be in your life now. Some of them may show up right when you need them to let you know that you're on the right path. Some of them may be on their way.

In the meantime, if you are struggling and need love and support, come talk to me. And if it helps, remember that we are all connected, no matter how far apart we may seem.

Comments

[Ann Bimberg]

i absolutely detest it when things change. even if later i admit it was for the best.

[Amy]

I was just thinking about this earlier today and so when I read this I had to comment. I have looked at your photo blog before but I had never since the Blue Lotus one before. I just read through all your old posts and I have to say I felt so much of what you have to say. I have been having lots of feelings lately that I need to be myself more and stop being who my family and some friends think I am or should be. So you have inspired me to start on that change and as I am typing I am starting to feel sick about it. I don't know why I am so fearful because I know I will be okay and that I will feel better.

And on reikki: I had a boss when I worked at Taco Bell that did reikki and I found it so interesting. I miss her! I would love for you to send some my way!

I have so much more inside that I am feeling but I can't begin to find the words.

[Kara]

Hi-
We both commented on the same blog entry (on Sara's The Way of the Happy Woman), and I clicked over to you and landed here.
this is a really amazing piece that you wrote!
I feel like you some how summed up a lot of what I've been feeling lately, and put it in such a positive perspective. I was always someone who was surrounded by lots of people - friends, aquaintances. And for the past few years have been growing more into my adult self and shedding some of the old people I used to know (thru my choice, theirs, or just because). And i feel really ok with it on the inside, but wonder if I am isolating myself by not letting in so many people who just don't matter highly to me. And reading your take on this reminds me that as long as it is ok with me, then it's ok.
does that make sense?

anyway, thanks for sharing.
-kara (another portlander!)

[elizabeth @ the blue lotus]

@ann: i don't always love it myself! but i figure change is inevitable, so i should learn to embrace it. :)

@amy: i am so glad you are inspired to be more yourself! it might be hard (it was for me), but in the end, you will feel 100% better (i do). reiki sent. :)

@kara: it makes perfect sense. and i agree - if it's ok with you, then it's ok. thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! (portland is wonderful, isn't it :)

[Toni]

I had a friend.
I thought she was my best friend.
I thought I could be honest with her.
Apparently not.
I miss my friend.

It is hard sometimes and I feel the loss of her friendship, especially when I choose to have just a few close friends. Life goes on.